In this series of blog posts entitled “What Every Husband Wants,” we have tackled our selfishness, our ingratitude, and our semi-rude tendencies that can negatively impact our husbands. The solution to these problems usually involves lots of prayer, a dose of biblical perspective, and some ambitious commitments. If we were to follow through on these resolves, we would be much more pleasant as wives, and ultimately we would be the kind of wife a husband is blessed to have! Though any changes we seek to make will not be easy, they will be worth it! Let me convince you with 5 reasons:
#1 God sees …and rewards!
God sees every sacrifice, every act of selflessness, every challenge you face, and when you do what it takes to obey him, he will reward you! There are a variety of passages you could find to prove this. One example is 2 Cor 5:10, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.” We must remember that nothing we do escapes God’s notice. This includes any hard circumstances that surround your efforts to be a godly wife. So press on knowing someone is watching, and not just any someone – the God who has all ability to generously reward his children!
#2 God declares you beautiful when you obey.
When a wife seeks to be godly, she is described by God as having imperishable beauty! More than that, it is a beauty that “in God’s sight is very precious” (1 Peter 3:1-6). So much of our lives we seek after wanting to be beautiful to someone – and here we have GOD, the most powerful and amazing being in the universe saying we can attain an imperishable beauty that is precious in his sight! Wow.
#3 You can influence your husband for good.
The same passage that speaks of attainable lasting beauty, also says that our conduct can significantly impact our spouse. The original audience of 1 Peter 3 is Christian women who have non-Christian husbands. 1 Peter 3:1 says that a husband can be “won without a word” because he sees his wife’s respectful and pure conduct. So a husband may cease living for himself and turn to Christ, simply because his wife is good godly wife! That is some serious influence! And if your husband is saved, and therefore has the power of God’s Spirit working in him, you can only imagine how your godliness will spur him on to more maturity and growth. I imagine there are ways you would like to influence your husband – make your godly life the main catalyst!
#4 You make God look good.
Titus 2:3-6 describes the role of a godly woman, and it says that if we live obediently, we can prevent the word of God from being reviled. In other words, God doesn’t look good when women do wife-hood their own way. Conversely, no one can say anything (legitimately) wrong against God and his truth when they see a godly woman in action! I don’t know about you, but I would like to know that my life is pointing people the right direction, rather than giving them a reason to disdain God and his ways.
#5 You become a gift to your husband!
Speaking of the excellent wife, Proverbs 31:11 says, “The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.” When you seek to be a godly wife, and more specifically a pleasant wife (the topic of this blog post series), it’s like your husband is lacking nothing — he very much has what he wants. Even if your husband is not all you hope for, what joy should fill your heart when you know you are doing what you should, and it shows enough to make your husband happy he has you as a wife.
These 5 reasons are key motivations to keep in mind if we want to remain faithful in becoming good, pleasant, godly wives. Otherwise, when marriage gets extra hard, we can find ourselves derailed. Eventually, the hard work just won’t feel worth it. Unless we have the bigger picture in mind…
We need to remember God sees all we do. We need to know he won’t rip us off when he says he will reward us. We need to remind ourselves God very much cares about how we conduct ourselves as wives. He declares us beautiful when we do it well. We glorify God when we do it well. And we very much influence our husbands when we do it well. It is clearly worth our efforts to do this “pleasant wife” thing well!
If you missed What Every Husband Wants Part 1 or Part 2 you can find them here: